Transcript: AAC — 27 Mar 2026 (Q&A)
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WEBVTT 00:00:00.280 --> 00:00:03.040It is the 27th of March, 2026. 00:00:03.040 --> 00:00:03.900 I am Corey J. 00:00:03.900 --> 00:00:06.100 Mahler, and this is At Any Cost. 00:00:06.100 --> 00:00:09.940 This is episode 22, a Q&A episode. 00:00:09.940 --> 00:00:17.660 And before I get into the questions for tonight, I'm just going to do a little bit of housekeeping, just three things really quick. 00:00:17.660 --> 00:00:19.800 Three questions that are pushed to next week. 00:00:19.800 --> 00:00:21.280 That's the housekeeping. 00:00:21.280 --> 00:00:27.960 The first is about Japan, China, and India, and how religion has played a role in that, and either preserving or degenerating those people. 00:00:28.560 --> 00:00:33.220 So, really a question about Shinto versus Confucianism versus Hinduism. 00:00:33.220 --> 00:00:43.200 And then the second is the connection between Japheth and Jupiter, and related things to that, various pantheons, and how they tie into Christianity or corruptions of Christianity. 00:00:43.200 --> 00:00:55.540 And then the last one is National Socialism, and how it is consonant with Christianity, because I have, of course, posted before that National Socialism was a translation of Christianity into politics, and I do believe that. 00:00:55.660 --> 00:01:01.540 So, I want to treat that at greater length and greater depth, so I'm pushing that to next week when I have more time to prepare it. 00:01:01.540 --> 00:01:03.680 I didn't have time this week. 00:01:03.680 --> 00:01:14.720 But moving on to the questions for this week, and I have noted the questions that have come in so far in the chat, so I've added those either for this week or next week, depending on whether or not I'll get to them. 00:01:15.940 --> 00:01:21.700 The first question, rather timely, considering just a few days to go for this. 00:01:21.740 --> 00:01:29.560 Question one, so this year, I noticed in my church's app that we are hosting a Passover Seder service on Palm Sunday. 00:01:29.560 --> 00:01:32.060 However, this is not part of the main service. 00:01:32.060 --> 00:01:35.720 It is an optional event you can go to later in the evening. 00:01:35.720 --> 00:01:39.140 It is alarming me because this seems like a very Judaizing move. 00:01:39.140 --> 00:01:40.360 It is. 00:01:40.360 --> 00:01:43.620 They will be hosting a speaker by the name of Marie Tillis Tiles. 00:01:43.620 --> 00:01:45.160 I don't know how he pronounces his name. 00:01:45.160 --> 00:01:47.800 He is a Jewish Christian, in quotes. 00:01:47.800 --> 00:01:48.560 That's appropriate. 00:01:49.140 --> 00:01:53.440 A man that runs an organization called Light of Messiah Ministries. 00:01:53.440 --> 00:01:54.820 Links to the website. 00:01:54.820 --> 00:02:02.100 His whole modus operandi, from what I've read on his site, seems to be to bind the conscience of Christians to Jews in Israel. 00:02:02.100 --> 00:02:03.500 That's expected. 00:02:03.500 --> 00:02:07.600 The nation state, of course, he's speaking of, and he has that here as a parenthetical. 00:02:07.600 --> 00:02:14.200 Perhaps trying to make sure that the boomer glue is still adhesive and emphasizing the Jewishness of Jesus, in quotes. 00:02:14.200 --> 00:02:18.320 Also fighting anti-Semitism, also in quotes, is one of their missions. 00:02:19.440 --> 00:02:21.620 I am not sure what to do or say about this. 00:02:21.620 --> 00:02:26.560 If it were just myself, I would be compelled to raise concerns to the pastors about this. 00:02:26.560 --> 00:02:30.900 However, I am a member alongside my parents, who are very entrenched there. 00:02:30.900 --> 00:02:34.320 Many years, I only became a member of the church a year ago. 00:02:34.320 --> 00:02:39.400 My dad has been part of the music ministry for many years, and my mom is very involved in small groups. 00:02:39.400 --> 00:02:45.280 I do not want to embarrass them or alienate them from their peers or the pastors by being the person that sounds the alarm. 00:02:45.960 --> 00:02:47.940 I want to keep the Fifth Commandment. 00:02:47.940 --> 00:02:54.200 I assume he means the reform numbering, so the Fourth Commandment for those of us who are Lutheran. 00:02:54.200 --> 00:02:56.220 Honor thy father and thy mother, of course. 00:02:56.220 --> 00:03:01.040 My parents, especially my dad, are quite aware of my weariness of the Jews and my distrust of them. 00:03:01.040 --> 00:03:10.560 As we talk about politics and the Jews frequently, I am 34 years old and can look for another church at any time, but I love being there with my family as a whole. 00:03:10.560 --> 00:03:21.920 Side note, something that also makes my ears perk up is that my pastor has been increasingly using the pronoun Yahweh to refer to God, and this appears to be a fairly recent phenomenon. 00:03:21.920 --> 00:03:32.140 I've also never heard any dispensationalism or Zionist teaching coming out of the church or from this pastor, the head pastor, so this sort of Judaizing has kind of taken me by surprise. 00:03:34.400 --> 00:03:42.080 This is obviously going to be an issue that is going to face many, and has faced many in the past, say, ten years or so. 00:03:43.500 --> 00:03:56.700 There is a very real push to try to keep Christians on the reservation, as it were, to keep Christians believing that the Jews are chosen in some way, they're special, and that we have to support them and blah, blah, blah. 00:03:57.760 --> 00:04:04.820 The first point I would make is that anyone who calls himself a Messianic Jew, that's a red flag. 00:04:04.820 --> 00:04:08.860 Why is he calling himself a Messianic Jew instead of a Christian? 00:04:09.720 --> 00:04:21.820 The handful of Jews, after the very early church period, when the first century or two, many Jews converted, they did, and then mostly were slaughtered by their brothers for their trouble. 00:04:21.820 --> 00:04:28.820 But after that point, any Jew who converted did not call himself a Messianic Jew. 00:04:28.820 --> 00:04:30.780 He called himself a Christian. 00:04:30.780 --> 00:04:35.860 And so these Jews who are calling themselves Messianic Jews, all they're doing is hedging their bets. 00:04:35.860 --> 00:04:38.540 They're doing the same thing that Jews have done down through history. 00:04:39.060 --> 00:04:41.840 You control the opposition, you play both sides. 00:04:41.840 --> 00:04:45.180 I would never trust someone who calls himself a Messianic Jew. 00:04:45.180 --> 00:04:53.160 If he calls himself a Christian, I still have some reservations, and I'd like him to be over in Israel being a Christian, over there instead of here. 00:04:53.160 --> 00:04:55.120 And that raises other problems as well. 00:04:55.120 --> 00:05:04.020 But if he's calling himself a Messianic Jew instead of a Christian, that is such a major red flag that absolutely no, he should not be speaking at a church. 00:05:04.640 --> 00:05:12.720 What gives him some sort of authority or anything, really? 00:05:12.720 --> 00:05:14.880 What gives him the teaching ability? 00:05:14.880 --> 00:05:16.060 Is it just because he's a Jew? 00:05:16.060 --> 00:05:18.160 That's what's being implied here. 00:05:18.160 --> 00:05:21.760 No, being a Jew does not give you the ability to say anything about the Christian faith. 00:05:21.760 --> 00:05:25.900 If anything, it's a handicap, and you should say nothing about the Christian faith. 00:05:25.900 --> 00:05:31.100 So, in your case, obviously, there are some other considerations. 00:05:31.180 --> 00:05:49.040 If this is a church where your family has been for some period of time, in the American context, a lot of times, you don't have someone who's been at a church for generations, so a long time may just be five, six, ten years, whatever it happens to be, which is not a trivial amount of time. 00:05:49.040 --> 00:05:52.880 It is in the grand scheme, but not for human life. 00:05:52.880 --> 00:05:57.900 So, do you go to another church, I think, is really the core question here. 00:05:58.760 --> 00:06:14.800 And I think the answer is, if they continue down this path of judaizing, which is what this is, you correctly recognize that, that's open judaizing, if they continue down the path, you're going to, for the sake of your conscience, have to find a new church. 00:06:14.800 --> 00:06:19.440 Because this is probably not going to get better, it's probably just going to get worse. 00:06:19.440 --> 00:06:27.560 And you're at the age where your parents are probably old, Gen X instead of Boomers. 00:06:27.560 --> 00:06:30.220 Right around that age, it kind of depends on some various factors. 00:06:30.220 --> 00:06:36.120 But, so, six years different from me, my parents are, of course, baby Boomers. 00:06:36.120 --> 00:06:51.200 This is going to be an issue for those of us kind of in that age range, because if you want to continue attending church with your parents, which is a good thing, you should want to go to the same church as your parents, your siblings, your cousins, you should want to be with family, that's a good thing. 00:06:51.200 --> 00:07:01.900 But, the most important thing is that you're going to a church that is actually teaching correctly, that is teaching right doctrine, that is administering the sacraments, that is an actual church. 00:07:01.900 --> 00:07:08.680 So, this is going off the rails, it will probably get worse, that's just the reality here. 00:07:10.240 --> 00:07:21.820 If you raise it with the pastor, right, in this case, multiple pastors, you raise it with a head pastor, remember, it happens to be, he's probably just going to brush you off, and then watch you like a hawk. 00:07:22.500 --> 00:07:31.840 Maybe they won't go after you right away, or kick you out, but they're going to watch you closely, and they may try to make life difficult for you, that's just the reality of it. 00:07:31.840 --> 00:07:40.140 You may realize that, for better or worse, some men who call themselves pastors are not in fact Christian. 00:07:40.140 --> 00:07:45.560 They really only care about the money, the Jews, and Israel. 00:07:45.560 --> 00:07:56.940 And if this is a man who has before this not been Judaizing, and now he's suddenly doing so, I would kind of wonder why, what changed? 00:07:56.940 --> 00:07:59.000 Did something in his family change? 00:07:59.000 --> 00:08:00.420 Did money exchange hands? 00:08:00.420 --> 00:08:02.200 Why did this happen? 00:08:02.200 --> 00:08:12.440 Maybe you can't find out what happened there, but if he's made that sort of change, the odds of him becoming your enemy, if you point this out, are very high. 00:08:12.440 --> 00:08:15.700 So that doesn't mean that you don't bring this up. 00:08:15.700 --> 00:08:18.220 It doesn't mean that you don't leave and attend another church. 00:08:18.480 --> 00:08:20.460 Maybe you have to do that. 00:08:20.460 --> 00:08:22.320 It does mean that you need to keep that in mind. 00:08:22.320 --> 00:08:24.320 There may be those sorts of consequences. 00:08:26.080 --> 00:08:29.200 You mentioned that you discuss these things with your parents. 00:08:29.200 --> 00:08:48.200 So, if you can discuss this with your parents and get them to recognize that this is contrary to what Christianity actually teaches, it's contrary to what all Christians have believed down through the centuries, then maybe you can get them to leave the church with you and you can all together go to a new church. 00:08:48.200 --> 00:08:53.840 That would be certainly a better outcome than you simply leaving and going to a new church on your own. 00:08:53.840 --> 00:09:00.520 But the baseline here, I think, is that this is probably going to get worse and you're probably going to have to find a new church. 00:09:00.520 --> 00:09:05.120 So, if you can take your parents with you, that's great. 00:09:05.120 --> 00:09:16.320 I don't think that you necessarily have to confront the pastor on this because the odds that's going to go anywhere beneficial to anyone are just about zero. 00:09:16.320 --> 00:09:25.140 If you feel that you are compelled to do so, if your conscience is convicted, you feel that you need to go and tell the pastor what he's doing is wrong. 00:09:25.140 --> 00:09:26.340 This is not Christian. 00:09:26.340 --> 00:09:27.120 This is sinful. 00:09:27.120 --> 00:09:27.960 You need to stop. 00:09:27.960 --> 00:09:29.740 You need to desist. 00:09:29.740 --> 00:09:31.980 Then by all means, obey your conscience. 00:09:31.980 --> 00:09:45.500 But if you don't feel that compulsion to do that, then just out of an abundance of wisdom, it's probably better not to bother in this case, because the odds of anything, again, anything positive happening are basically zero. 00:09:45.500 --> 00:09:48.240 This is a pattern that I have seen many times. 00:09:48.240 --> 00:09:49.980 I've had people DM me. 00:09:49.980 --> 00:09:51.760 They've DMed Woe and others. 00:09:51.760 --> 00:09:53.420 This happens a lot. 00:09:53.420 --> 00:10:04.740 So it's where we are today with the churches, and we're sort of in a transitional period because we're still building up new and better churches to replace these old ones. 00:10:05.680 --> 00:10:10.620 But a lot of places, you're not going to have one of those churches readily available to you. 00:10:10.620 --> 00:10:14.020 And so the boomers still control these churches. 00:10:14.020 --> 00:10:19.240 They've not quite gotten old enough yet to stop being elders and pastors. 00:10:19.240 --> 00:10:24.660 As they retire and leave, that presents a real opportunity to shift things. 00:10:24.660 --> 00:10:28.360 So as I've mentioned before, it's tangentially related. 00:10:28.360 --> 00:10:37.660 If you can get on the elder board of your church and start to shift things away, and then you were probably one of the ones who has a vote to call a new pastor, by all means do that. 00:10:37.660 --> 00:10:42.960 That's one way you can return a church to faithfulness, a particular church body to faithfulness. 00:10:44.320 --> 00:10:48.560 But I think here this is a matter of conscience. 00:10:48.560 --> 00:10:53.740 If your conscience is pricked, then perhaps you have to go and confront that pastor. 00:10:53.740 --> 00:10:57.100 Nothing positive will come of it, just letting you know that. 00:10:57.100 --> 00:11:01.600 And if it continues down this path, probably find a new church. 00:11:01.600 --> 00:11:09.860 Hopefully alongside your parents, but if not, then attend the new church, and hopefully over time, you can raise the issue with them. 00:11:09.860 --> 00:11:11.500 Maybe they'll see the light. 00:11:15.300 --> 00:11:18.180 Next question, question two. 00:11:20.080 --> 00:11:22.920 Sort of related to question one, actually. 00:11:22.920 --> 00:11:28.660 It seems that most governing church bodies are a shell of their former selves and deteriorating rapidly. 00:11:28.660 --> 00:11:33.940 In today's climate, I am struggling to see how this will be beneficial for either party in the long run. 00:11:33.940 --> 00:11:36.700 So the basic question is, should we join a church body? 00:11:37.960 --> 00:11:41.740 I've answered this one a number of times, but it's always worth repeating. 00:11:41.740 --> 00:12:07.620 By and large, the corporate church bodies, and it doesn't matter which one you have in mind here, whether it's the LCMS and the Lutheran case, or it's any of the various Presbyterian or Reformed ones, or it's the Church of England, in our case, the Anglicans over here, whatever it happens to be, they're basically all, if not outright apostate, very close to it, at the upper echelons, which is to say, the leadership. 00:12:07.620 --> 00:12:10.360 The same thing, of course, is true of the Roman Catholic Church. 00:12:10.360 --> 00:12:17.980 I don't know anyone who's actually a true conservative Christian who likes the current pope or who liked the previous pope. 00:12:17.980 --> 00:12:21.080 There were a handful who liked the former Hitler Youth guy. 00:12:21.080 --> 00:12:22.660 Unsurprising, he was actually good on some things. 00:12:24.940 --> 00:12:33.280 But, as far as church bodies go, you're not so much joining the church body as you are joining the local church. 00:12:33.280 --> 00:12:40.420 Now, there are some obvious differences there, some difficulties for those who are Roman Catholic, right? 00:12:40.420 --> 00:12:45.520 Because when you're joining a Roman Catholic Church, you're kind of joining Rome. 00:12:46.580 --> 00:12:49.140 So, that's more difficult for them. 00:12:49.140 --> 00:12:51.220 For those of us who are Protestant, it's not a problem. 00:12:51.280 --> 00:12:57.660 Because what you're really joining, yes, there are some that are Episcopal, and so there's a bishop over your pastor, and things like that. 00:12:57.660 --> 00:13:04.580 You have a little bit of that over with Protestants, in the US., not as much, more over in Europe. 00:13:04.580 --> 00:13:15.340 In the Lutheran case, for instance, basically all Lutheran bodies are Congregationalist, which just means the local parish owns the building, the land, leases it, whatever it happens to be. 00:13:15.340 --> 00:13:22.400 And the vice president, who is a bishop, that's all he is, he's just changed his title, doesn't have that much authority. 00:13:22.400 --> 00:13:26.700 He can't really tell the pastor, you have to do X, Y, and Z. 00:13:26.700 --> 00:13:32.480 Now, there are formal ways to deal with disagreements, right? 00:13:32.480 --> 00:13:40.380 For instance, if someone is excommunicated, then it can be appealed, and then there can be sort of a dispute between the bishop and the church. 00:13:40.380 --> 00:13:45.160 But by and large, the parish has some level of autonomy. 00:13:45.160 --> 00:13:48.700 And so what you want to find is a faithful parish. 00:13:49.440 --> 00:14:06.300 And once you have found that, then you can help to move that parish to be more faithful, or if necessary, you can push for leaving the national body, which is perfectly fine, because then you can join a faithful national body at some point in the future. 00:14:06.300 --> 00:14:13.360 Like I've said before, for those who ask me, which Lutheran church should I attend, I'm in X area. 00:14:13.360 --> 00:14:23.660 You're going to have to check, because some of them will be faithful, and some of them will have a pastor who's just a company man who's going to follow whatever sin it tells him to do. 00:14:23.660 --> 00:14:26.500 And that guy will stab you in the back. 00:14:26.500 --> 00:14:29.480 So it doesn't mean that there are no good churches. 00:14:29.480 --> 00:14:38.780 It just means you can't look at the sign and know by what denomination or tradition the sign has on it, whether it's a good church or not. 00:14:38.780 --> 00:14:41.860 Because these days, it may mean very little. 00:14:41.860 --> 00:14:44.280 So is it worth joining a church body? 00:14:44.280 --> 00:14:50.600 Absolutely, because there are still good churches, and you should not forsake the gathering together of the saints. 00:14:50.600 --> 00:14:54.700 Starting up a home church is sort of the extreme option. 00:14:54.700 --> 00:14:58.200 And let me know in the chat if the birds are coming through a little bit too loudly. 00:14:58.200 --> 00:15:02.640 I'm in the south and it's spring, and the birds are very excited, the sun's setting. 00:15:02.640 --> 00:15:12.700 But if you join a church body, you are joining that local parish, and it may very well be a very good church, and that's great if you have that. 00:15:12.700 --> 00:15:15.860 Starting up a home church is the last resort. 00:15:16.020 --> 00:15:27.920 That is, if you don't have faithful church bodies, if they are all so apostate around you that you cannot in good conscience attend any one of them, then start a home church. 00:15:27.920 --> 00:15:29.720 That's basically the hierarchy. 00:15:29.720 --> 00:15:30.940 Find a good parish. 00:15:30.940 --> 00:15:33.740 If none are available, start a home church. 00:15:33.740 --> 00:15:35.160 Nothing wrong with starting a home church. 00:15:35.160 --> 00:15:36.480 It's just not preferable. 00:15:36.480 --> 00:15:39.800 You don't really want to have to go back to 100 AD, right? 00:15:39.800 --> 00:15:50.080 You'd sort of rather have the benefit of all of the development in terms of the building and the liturgy and all those things over the last 2,000 years. 00:15:50.080 --> 00:15:53.060 But if you have to, start a home church. 00:16:02.210 --> 00:16:04.090 Question three. 00:16:04.090 --> 00:16:07.030 My brother and his wife are pregnant. 00:16:07.030 --> 00:16:12.690 Hopefully, just he's pregnant, but with their first child, they did the ultrasound, sadly. 00:16:13.930 --> 00:16:17.330 I don't have a problem with ultrasounds, but that's not the question. 00:16:17.330 --> 00:16:19.790 And found out that their first child will be a boy. 00:16:19.790 --> 00:16:26.470 Would I be sinfully binding my brother's conscience by telling him that I believe circumcision is not a wise decision? 00:16:26.470 --> 00:16:34.190 Do we know for certain that the procedure of circumcision that God commanded the Israelites is not the same procedure that is performed today? 00:16:35.390 --> 00:16:36.570 I'll take those in reverse order. 00:16:36.570 --> 00:16:40.970 So we do know that the procedure that was done back then is not the same. 00:16:40.970 --> 00:16:45.750 It was a cutting of the tip of the foreskin, not the removal of the full foreskin. 00:16:45.750 --> 00:16:50.810 There are a number of places in scripture where you can infer this. 00:16:50.810 --> 00:17:01.210 Now, archaeologically and historically, we know that is the case, but there are a number of places in scripture where there are narratives that do not make sense if it were a removal of the full foreskin. 00:17:01.210 --> 00:17:15.890 One of the most telling is when Joshua crosses over the Jordan and they're going toward Jericho to sack Jericho, they have to circumcise everyone who was wandering in the desert because they weren't circumcised on the way. 00:17:15.890 --> 00:17:23.290 So, you know, these are 30, 40-year-old men and others as well, obviously, eight days old and up, right? 00:17:23.290 --> 00:17:30.830 These are the men who are then going to have to go and walk around the city for a number of days and then fight and take the city. 00:17:30.830 --> 00:17:42.490 If it were the removal of the full foreskin, I think all the men in the audience recognize, you would need a little while to recover from that as a 40-year-old man or a 30-year-old or 20-year-old man, whatever it happens to be. 00:17:42.490 --> 00:17:45.050 They didn't really need much time to recover. 00:17:45.050 --> 00:18:02.170 Another one would be when the angel of the Lord is pursuing Moses as he is going from Midian back to Egypt because he had failed to circumcise his sons while he was in Midian, and his wife takes a stone tool and circumcises the son. 00:18:02.170 --> 00:18:08.090 You're probably not going to do that quickly with a stone tool if it is the removal of the full foreskin. 00:18:08.090 --> 00:18:09.470 I think that's pretty obvious. 00:18:09.470 --> 00:18:15.290 That's kind of a delicate operation that requires a degree of skill and much better tools. 00:18:15.290 --> 00:18:21.850 So I think taken together, it's pretty obvious which sort of circumcision is in view in scripture. 00:18:21.850 --> 00:18:26.870 It's just the removal of the tip of the foreskin or a cut in the foreskin. 00:18:26.870 --> 00:18:30.290 It's not total removal, completely different thing. 00:18:30.290 --> 00:18:37.630 That is a modern abomination that has been pushed on many in the world, particularly Americans. 00:18:37.630 --> 00:18:46.470 So would you be binding his conscience by telling him, say, it's Judaizing, it is impermissible, mutilation of your son, something like that? 00:18:46.470 --> 00:18:48.570 You are binding his conscience, but I think it's permissible. 00:18:49.250 --> 00:18:56.870 And I think that if you succeed in that, his son will certainly thank you later in life when he realizes who did that for him. 00:18:56.870 --> 00:19:02.610 So I don't think that it is objectionable to bind your brother's conscience with regard to this. 00:19:02.610 --> 00:19:09.730 He should put his foot down and say, I am not circumcising my son, and his wife just has to obey in that. 00:19:09.730 --> 00:19:15.390 So I think that that is not just something that you could do, but something that you should do in this case. 00:19:18.450 --> 00:19:22.090 And also, the historical argument, this is not something Christians did. 00:19:23.230 --> 00:19:31.950 The Greek converts, with very few exceptions, were not circumcised, and basically every Christian convert after that was not circumcised. 00:19:31.950 --> 00:19:39.570 This is completely novel and almost exclusive to the American context outside of parts of the world that are, say, Islamic, where they practice it as well. 00:19:47.019 --> 00:19:53.859 Question four, I have recently gotten a girlfriend, and this woman is everything I have ever wanted in a woman. 00:19:53.859 --> 00:19:56.039 She wears head coverings and skirts without being asked. 00:19:56.039 --> 00:19:57.899 She wants to cook and do the dishes for me. 00:19:57.899 --> 00:19:59.799 She wants multiple children. 00:19:59.799 --> 00:20:04.159 She is deeply caring and concerning, and there are many other things. 00:20:04.159 --> 00:20:10.539 I think she would make an amazing wife, and yet I seem unattracted or bored, although she is somewhat cute. 00:20:10.539 --> 00:20:15.199 I was very infatuated with her in the first few weeks that I met her, but it is not quite the same now. 00:20:16.039 --> 00:20:19.239 I know I would be an absolute fool to throw away such a good thing. 00:20:19.239 --> 00:20:22.619 I do really like her, and I deeply care about her, but I have that problem. 00:20:22.619 --> 00:20:28.579 Am I just getting used to her in my life, and have gotten over the initial thrill of finding exactly what I want? 00:20:28.579 --> 00:20:33.179 Am I trying to be emotional about her when I don't need to be as a man? 00:20:33.179 --> 00:20:34.699 In parentheses there. 00:20:34.699 --> 00:20:36.039 Will my feelings grow? 00:20:36.039 --> 00:20:40.079 Is there just an ebb and flow that I am making out to be more than what it is? 00:20:40.079 --> 00:20:44.219 I was exhausted the day that I thought this, so perhaps I'm overthinking it. 00:20:45.999 --> 00:21:00.639 This touches obviously on a number of profound issues, but I think the general takeaway is that there is a fundamental difference between infatuation and love, right? 00:21:00.639 --> 00:21:06.999 Now, for some people, the one can kind of shade into the other to some degree. 00:21:06.999 --> 00:21:09.159 For men, there's obviously a spectrum. 00:21:09.159 --> 00:21:12.299 Not all men are monolithic in one way or the other, right? 00:21:12.779 --> 00:21:15.839 And this is also going to be racial a little bit, too, obviously. 00:21:15.839 --> 00:21:22.779 Germans are not going to behave in the same way as the Spanish, or certainly as Africans or Asians. 00:21:22.779 --> 00:21:28.139 There are different ways of expressing these things, and different ways of feeling them to some degree as well. 00:21:28.139 --> 00:21:36.779 So perhaps the early feelings there that you had could correctly, as you said, be termed infatuation. 00:21:37.919 --> 00:21:43.139 It's a sort of different thing from building marriage, right? 00:21:43.139 --> 00:21:51.359 Marriage is a lifelong, long-term serious commitment, and it is something that is built over a course of years. 00:21:51.359 --> 00:21:56.759 Part of the way you build that is by having children and living with this person. 00:21:56.759 --> 00:22:06.659 Now, you don't need to be emotionally tethered in the way that you perhaps desire right now. 00:22:06.659 --> 00:22:09.339 That will develop over time. 00:22:09.339 --> 00:22:23.299 For men, that is going to be something that is going to deepen as you spend years with this woman, as you build your life with her, as she births your children, takes care of your home, cooks you meals, does all these things, right? 00:22:23.299 --> 00:22:29.499 That is something that is accumulated over time, and we all recognize this with regard to almost everything, right? 00:22:30.379 --> 00:22:39.699 You know, I could say, I don't actually have a favorite pen, but you know, if I had a favorite pen, it's partly going to be because of how often I've used the thing. 00:22:39.699 --> 00:22:42.659 It's not going to be just because, oh, I found a shiny pen, very neat. 00:22:42.659 --> 00:22:45.159 I conveniently picked a shiny one. 00:22:45.159 --> 00:22:51.339 I do have some that I like more than others, that I write with all the time, and it's partly because I write with them all the time. 00:22:51.339 --> 00:22:53.179 I've had them for a long time. 00:22:54.619 --> 00:22:57.659 So you shouldn't look at this as a negative. 00:22:57.859 --> 00:23:06.259 If this is not a problem, maybe you just, if this is the first serious girlfriend you had, then this is a new experience for you. 00:23:06.259 --> 00:23:17.199 You've not developed the responses, and you don't know your own internal states with regard to how you're going to deal with this new part of your life. 00:23:17.199 --> 00:23:20.839 So no, I don't think that you need to be concerned about this. 00:23:20.839 --> 00:23:30.819 Be glad that God has blessed you with this sort of woman, and hopefully everything turns out well, and you marry her and have some number of children, whatever number God chooses to give you. 00:23:32.479 --> 00:23:39.559 So I think it is important, though, to draw that distinction between sort of the emotional infatuation of something novel. 00:23:39.559 --> 00:23:39.899 Right? 00:23:40.399 --> 00:23:43.379 It's the level of excitement of opening an Amazon box. 00:23:43.379 --> 00:23:45.919 It's like, oh, I have new stuff. 00:23:45.919 --> 00:23:47.119